CONTACTING OW/OW'S HUSBAND

[kikidee]

Thanks for the cyber-squeeze. It all helps so much.

Here's a question. Part of my frenetic feelings and what's behind confronting my H is the fact that I am having a great deal of difficulty with the lies. I just want them to stop, so I want to do something to make them stop. I can't get this out of my head. It's as if I am somehow condoning the behavior if I don't do something about stopping it. It's partially a matter of self-respect. How long do I let him go on like this while he is very well aware of how much he is hurting me? I know it sounds as if it's all about me, but right now, I'm starting to feel like I have to make it about me or I am going to lose myself completely.