Ok guys, maybe this is where romance kicks in.........leaving notes or small gifts, asking W out on dates or to do things you did when things were good. I think the biggest thing here is NO PRESSURE for sex. I bet if you do your best to pretend like you're on that first date (assuming nothing happened on that first date) and treat your W like she's a prize you're willing to and want to wait for, things will eventually go your way.
Maybe a note left for W professing your love and willingness to wait until she's ready (that you want HER not just somebody to f***).
As for me, it's been over a year since my H (that is still living at home) has looked to me for sex. Don't quite know how that's working for him because he used to want it all the time and we had issues with the difference in our libidos (mine being lower). Until very recently I had problems accepting the fact that my H can't even come to our bed until 2 or 3 a.m I wake up when he comes to bed and start thinking about the fact that we are still sharing a bed, but that he is no longer sexually attracted to me. I think about how I want him, and that I would be happy if he could just lay close to me (although to be held would be better), but he positions himself so far away from me in our king size bed with the dog between us. I'm not bothered by this much these days because the reality has finally sunk in that at least for now he can't love me that way............
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
