I don't know how to copy - I'm on my D's pc sh!t....
Anyways - can't divulge the tricks stuff - H would kill me....but put it this way....one time back with me and OW was consigned to history (and you know how I love my whips )
If the guy doesn't want to have sex..... well firstly crumble a viagra into his dinner............. then no probs....esp if they are tied up
More seriously, I haven't hit the menopause yet so I don't think my lack of interest was to do with that. How I felt about me physically DID have something to do with that and also I had lost the ability to SEE my H properly. he was sort of invisible when looking at him through passion goggles - asexual I guess was how I was viewing him - familiarity breeding......well not wanting to bother breeding anymore I guess.
Will she sit down and go through the finances with you? You sound like the kind of person who would control himself even if inside you were mad about any money stuff. That's basically what my H has done....and in return I have been discussing the stuff with him instead of doing it all myself. And boy, is it nice to share the responsibility - I felt I was always the bad guy if I said NO to someone about something they wanted and when we thought about retirement I was always the one wondering if his pension was going to be OK etc, (we lost many tens of thousands when an insurance co over here lost a legal case). It's true that a problem shared is a problem halved.
It's not perfect now - I still withdraw when unhappy, and stop discussing things, and clam up, but now we recognise the signs and so can try to deal with it.And more than anything, we both are sure again that what we want is each other and that outweighs all the downsides or bad days.
Funnily enough I think BOTH H and I had a mini MLC but he had an A on top and I spent money - we seemed to go through the whole spectrum. Now we do actually laugh about it. Just the other day there was something on the TV about guys having MLC and A's and H caught my eye and said " I always thought I was unique but I am just like every other guy out there." For him that was a huge admission as he likes to think of himself as a 'think outside the box' sort of person and fairly unique. LOL (The Bright red sports car is coming soon!!!!!!!!! And it won't have a very big boot as the only type of woman he wants in it is one who doesn't take more than a toothbrush and spare underwear out with him.....I gotta have room for my whips and the saddle though Guess we will figure it out - no room for kids though )
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
(and you know how I love my whips 
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Guess we will figure it out - no room for kids though 
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