Saf, Excellent discussion. You make some interesting points.
I was actually watching a programme last night all about different types of 'self help' and Jung's theory was discussed EXACTLY as you are describing.
Whew! Good thing I paid attention in class!
Now, turning to this F-Buddy business. Not that I am advocating doing it BUT I was pretty much in the place you are with my H sex wise before I found out about his A.
Now THIS is simply fascinating. Okay, before I continue, I have to get the famous f-buddy scene from "The 40 Year Old Virgin" out of my head.
Okay. Gone. Saf...you're not the first woman who's told me the same. Believe it or not, my DB coach and I were discussing menopause at one point. My coach told me her libido simply vanished. She said: "My husband could have brought home two bimbos from Vegas and I wouldn't have cared. In fact, I might have cheered him on. It was that bad."
But now you have added in the jealousy element. Interesting dynamic. A few times on these boards, I have seen sitches where the MLCer came back after the LBS started exploring the dating world. Hmmmm.
No. Don't go there Bomb...
Hey...maybe what I need is an imaginary f-buddy. Let's call her...."Bunny". "Bunny's" role will be to break the tension over sex and inject a little more laughter.
Have to think about that one...
...and I can do tricks
Please elaborate.
...but if a guy doesn't want sex what can a girl do?
This is my neighbor's sitch. And she's cute, too. And young. Cruel fate. Anyway, I think a girl can do a lot. In my neighbor's sitch, it's a classic case of over-pursuit.
...I always felt as though H was telling me off for spending too much money- on clothes and stuff for the kids and my horse etc. Basically he still had control...
You just described me. I was the saver; she was the spender. I would postpone gratification and save up to buy something; she would "live for the moment" and charge it. Again...opposites attract. I loved her spontaneity...which, to my surprise, extended to her money habits. So what to do? Pool the money, or separate accounts? I've been struggling with this for awhile.
Somehow your W needs to stop seeing you as the parent and her the child when it comes to money.
The MC was trying to make this point, but my wife kept pulling the convo back to sex.
Boy...talk about a "meaty" discussion: sex, money, and jealousy.
Bomb
Me: 51 W: 50 M 24 yrs EA: since Apr 06 S22, S26, S28 ILYBNILWY:Nov 07
"It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything." Tyler Durden
