Quoting sage: I wish I could stop feeling as though he has one foot out the door. I know that I have to let my guard down to heal this marriage but it feels impossible when I wonder every day if today is the day he's leaving".
Couldn't have summed up my feelings more perfectly.
Sage, the DBing you have done up to now has transformed you into wonderful better person. Far better than OW! This new wonderful you has brought him back and by continue to do what works and keep working on yourself will only strengthen his attraction to you.
The source of the insecurities you feel don't come from H or OM but from within. The source is your own self-doubt if the changes you've made are good enough or will continue.
To keep the positives going (and this include remaining positive about how you feel about yourself as well as in M) , keep concentrating on doing what works and continue to strive to work on becoming a better person because you want to strength the attract already has towards you. Keep doing it until is seems like second nature, and you will discover a new level of self-confidence and that self-confidence will strengthen even more the bond that draw him closer and sets the stage to move beyond this. Because of your newly gained self-confidence, you will not need to seek his reassurences and by the building bond between you will feed you more and more of the things he does that lets you know he is happy being with you.
This may sound like theoretical mumble-jumble, by concentrating my thoughts along these lines has worked for me and maybe has help turned it into a self-fulfilling outcome (at least from my side of the R). That's not to say I no longer have doubts (dealing with the current aftermath of her C session on Saturday for instance) , but having more self-confidence has allowed me to handle them without acting out because of them and not allowing them to come between us anymore.
