Marcum - sorry you're having such a rough time. I know that's so hard.

A few things I'd suggest:

- Pack up her stuff that she didn't take, with as little emotion and assumptions as possible. I know this will be hard - but that way you can stop seeing things and driving yourself crazy wondering why this, not that, etc. Maybe a friend or family member can help you with this.

- Rearrange/redecorate some parts of the house so they feel more like "you." It will help you feel comfortable and help fill the holes in your home.

- Don't lose sight of the DB principles... it's easy to get really sucked down right now, but keep working towards that PMA, GAL, long term goals. It'll be a fight for awhile to force yourself to do this, but it will help in the long run.

I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. When my H moved out I stayed most of the time - proud of you for being able to NOT do that, good job there.

Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7
Bomb 1 10/07/06
Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15
Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07
Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate
2/08 slowly improving
7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!)
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