I accept and believe what you say about the focus being on US changing. It is not easy to do when you are down and living under the same roof.
NOTHING is easy about reconciling a broken M. It's difficult because WE are difficult. Weak, selfish, needy, controlling and cowardly. We just never grew up to manhood. Thought it was about being cool, selfish, critical, demeaning, physical, arrogant, and stuck up. What we learned from our friends and our fathers was pretty flawed, but thankfully it's not permanent, if WE decide differently.
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maybe our WAS need to change a little also
One thing you can count on for sure. They WILL change. You just stay focused on YOU. On letting go your neediness, your expectations, your self preservation, your anger, fear, resentment and anxiety. Those are all tools carefully planted in your mind by evil to allow, motivate, and guide you to failure. Courage, strength and faith will shatter that house of cards, and bring the truth into your life. Be brave, be bold, be honest, and believe in the one God that is love.
Fight the good fight!
God Bless,
COG
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