Make things better by looking ahead....

[Umbrella24]

Hey sage, just checking up on you. I'm not being real active around here these days, so consider yourself special

OK, I think I'm seeing a trend here. I could be wrong, but it seems like every time things are going well between you guys, you start getting those feelings of insecurities, or DBIDKHTBAGW, as you would call it. Quit beating yourself up. Don't know how to be a good wife? Listen, there are probably a hundred guys around here who would kill for their wives to act like you are. So don't give me that, I'm not buying it.

I sometimes wonder if there is still some resentment from the A that you haven't been able to let go of. Therefore, when things start going well, maybe you feel like they SHOULDN'T be going well, and find a way to pull back. OK, I'll shut up now, before I get busted for practicing psychiatry without a license.

Sage, I think maybe it's time for you to just sit back and enjoy the ride for awhile, without trying to analyze everything so much. You've worked so hard on trying to keep your M together. Now your H is joining in, so maybe it's time to let him. Relax, and enjoy the gift you've been given. As you know, not everyone receives this gift. Cherish it, and most of all, have a good time. Take a break, before you burn yourself out.

Jim