Sage,

Haven't been following your sitch... Very sorry. Kind of wrapped up in my own mood.

Well, I have to say that you are working pretty hard acting on good advises: Giving your H good time after having a good interaction. You did not resort to the old pattern giving him a hard time even though he tried to make an effort to spend time hanging out with you.

Okay, here comes the hard part. I know that your H is still in contact with OW; I know it eats away your heart as you did not get the return of love you wanted or deserved. What can you do? Is it time to give yourself a reward, especially after the final is done?

What else can we do to help Sage spend a happy and fulfilling time with herself, without obsessing with her H thinking of her or not?

It is hard all right, but at this point, you can only focus on yourself so you can truly DB and show the best of you when you have the opportunity to interact with H, the truly happy and fulfilled Sage?

Hang in there, my friend. You seemed to have made so much changes in you. You can keep moving along...

Chuck