You are amazing! Congratualtions on going to Retrouvaille. Yes, it can work miracles. But it is up to the couple. I am praying for you and your kids. I know it will be hard for your husband to stand up to her. But commitment is a choice, and if he truly makes the choice, then he can do it. Best of luck to you. It is hard to keep the negative thoughts out of your head. Just because you get them doesn't mean that they are right!