Sweets we all go through these times...I know you are sorry how you handled things...but the important thing is that you can see that and that you are talking to your children about it and encouraging them to make their own choices, etc. Your H left them too...and although he sees them, they KNOW he left them as well. There is nothing you can do about that.
If the R with your kids and him is going to heal, then he must also do his part. Do not take the responsibility for this. Your H must also learn that he has damaged the R with your kids and HE must work to mend those broken fences as well.
Alison, don't be made to feel overly guilty about this. You have been struggling with your own feelings as well as those of your kids PLUS dealing with the fallout of you H leaving and throwing everything in your lap.
I think you are doing great, mama! This too shall pass....just keep saying that to yourself....
Smooches, Valentine
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
