well , i have been READING lots of posting on everybody's situation, it looks like we need a few more miracles this week. i know i am ready for one. lots of people have been dealing with their situations for 3-5 months and we all need some inspiration.
My W and I were separated for almost 4 years. That was after living in the same house separately for about a year and a half. Well I'm here to say that things changed in my sitch, miracles happened. Probably the greatest miracle was in how I changed. As much as I thought my W was the one needing to be fixed, it wasn't until I accepted the truth about myself that our sitch began to change.
Hang in there brothers and sisters. Know that this is a battle between good and evil, more so than between two human beings. Take hard looks at yourself, your life, your actions, and words. Listen to your S, they know you better than anyone else. Listen and pray about what changes YOU need to make to become a better person. Learn to love your S unconditionally, as they are, for whom they are, and how they feel. Strive to understand and love them, not to change them. Seek and honest and unconditional friendship first, and build from there.
It's a lot of hard work, but worth the effort. The focus needs to be on YOU changing, not your S.
With God, anything is possible.
Courage, Strength and Faith,
COG
My Story http://www.divorcebusting.com/forum...&Number=660444&page=2#Post660444
