I felt my WAW was angry for the last straw that pushed her over the edge and then vented all the anger she's ever had prior to the last straw. Could be wrong but I never felt it was because of her decision to separate and desire the big D. Those are choices that she feels will make her feel better. Think the anger is not from those choices. Something to consider...
That sounds better than what I was thinking. But not from choices like this is out of his hands?? Not sure??
He wanted to work on things until he went on his motorcycle trip with his father then it was get the heck out and never speak to me again. I wonder if his Dad had anything to do with it? Don't know just speculation...
I jusy can't figure out how to get him to talk to me even to work on anything. He flat out says there is not going back. Makes me want to give up hope but I have 7 and a half months left to hope. I don't think he will ever come back....I am about at the point if just giving up and moving out of his life.
Not like I know what I am doing but I can assure you that talking to him now is just going to validate his feeling of not wanting to talk/work/on anthing. Nothing good will come of that. Give him space and lots of it.
Don't give up hope though. You cannot do anything about how he chooses to use his time but you can use it for yourself. GAL, read and listen to everything you can, keep up the PMA.
Try posting in newcomer section..you'll get more views/posts/etc...
Pinkribbon, The anger your spouse is projecting onto you is so COMMON!!! Please, for your sanity, DO NOT TAKE IT PERSONALLY. My spouse was so horrible to me when he first left. It was to the point of absurdity. He actually yelled at ME for a car that HE was driving getting repossessed b/c he didn't make the payments, and it was in MY NAME!!! He yelled at me saying I must have told the tow truck people where the car was etc....silly and stupid, but H just felt compelled to roar at me whenever the chance arose. I do believe it has something to do with them feeling that they need to provoke us into hating them so that they can feel justified in doing something they know is hurtful. IT WILL PASS. Be the better person. Just think of it as a tornado that you need to hide from until the sun comes out again and trust me, it will. You just need to have faith and patience!
