Beauty, I took a look at the Oprah show. That was very interesting. Actually, I'm mystified that all the OW they interviewed pretty much blamed the A on the man! That all they did was lie about being married and how bad their wife was. Come on!
We sure know from this board that is not always the case. I know OW pursued my H somewhat. He was not her first A. Same thing with the OW for LWB.
On the other hand, they said the wife never really mattered to them. They just didn't think about her... Sounds like they are in as big a fog as the cheating H!