Quote: I'm frankly not sure that my h shares this fear...he certainly has never expressed it to me! H has expressed uncertainty about whether he wants to be M or not -- as recently as 6 weeks ago...to me that feels like a big reason why I'm struggling so much. He has told me in the past that he wants a D, has told me that he isn't sure he wants to be M, but hasn't ever said "let's try to make this work". If I asked him today he'd say "well, I'm still here, right?"
Gads, can I relate to that. It was only a couple of weeks ago that my H gently let me know that he still wishes to move out. And it was only last weekend that he admitted he still occasionally - has lunch with OW, goes out with her afterwork, and continues to call her. He has cut back on the feast, but all the same, he's still partaking.
Our S's seem quite capable of telling us in no uncertain terms that they "want out", so it would seem that they ought to be able to tell us that they "want in", if they want in, right?
But alas, this does not seem to be the way it is playing out at the moment.
I suppose this is were patience comes in?
And resolve?
And bravery?
Hang in there Sage, I'm hobbling right behind you in this crappy marathon.
