Saw him on a singles site...

[Where is Hope?]

I've been married almost ten years. Most of them were good years, although we have been in a difficult step-family situation. The fighting between my DH and my autistic son grew to a point where I left the house last August, fully expecting to take the time to work on some House Rules and improve our situation. No, instead, my DH allows his adult son to move in my son's room. He is a druggie. When he was 14, he molested his half-sister at his mother's house. He is truly a messed up person!

I continue to work for my DH and see him daily, but anytime I wanted to talk about US, I was met with anger. As long as I kept things on a work level, he was fine. I continued to cheerfully work for him in spite of many days where he was passive-aggressive in his reactions to me.

A couple of weeks ago, I noticed he had removed his wedding ring. Then last week, he left work early because he was sick and I went to turn off his computer at the end of the day and saw he has been on two singles sites. I went to the house and talked to him about this and he said he knew it wasn't right. I then pretended to be a single and he answered my "flirt", as they are called. I asked him if he ever converses with these women and he said no. I told him he was lying and then he finally told me many things he is angry about. I don't clean the garage, I didn't serve vegetables in my meals enough, etc. His son lives in our house and smokes pot in the house, turns on his little brothers and he is worried about vegetables?

Friends and family have been trying to talk me into seeing an attorney for months. Even HIS friends have told me that he says the only reason he keeps me around is financial.

I think it's time to dial the number for an attorney. My situation is complicated...so many more issues...but I'll start here.