I have been married for 12 years, separated for about 6 months. My husband commenced an affair 1 year ago. Even after I found out I maintained an open heart and tried to save the marriage. He really didn't want to leave, but nor would he give her up. He kept telling me that he had given her up, but then I would discover that he was off with her again, lying and cheating. He still doesn't want to truly end the marriage but the problem is this woman is his band manager. She has given him a great deal of money to pursue his dream of becoming a music star and they have set up a business together. He refuses to walk away from all that. She even took him on a marketing trip around the world, all expenses paid. I've been forgiving, loving, allowing him to come and go from my home endlessly to satisfy his own needs to be part of the family but none of this is of any use - I simply can't compete with her money and her ability to devote 100% of herself to furthering his dreams. I have two young kids and am working full time. He is not giving me any financial support. I don't think he will ever give her up because of his music dream, even though he desperately misses being part of the family. Sometimes he says he misses me, but lately he has become more distant. Any advice would be appreciated - is it time for me to give up?
Me: 39, H: 37 Married 12 yrs EA 01/07, bomb 07/07. He moved out 09/07. Lived alone for some time, moved in with OW in 2009, moved out again Mar 2010 S:8 D:11
