I really understand what you are going through. Trust me. I understand you know you are not in immediate danger. I think you know when the bomb is coming. So, take your time and have a good plan. I know the two weeks after you leave is the most dangerous time but it is possible that your danger may not stop for a long time. So be ready to fight and fight but remember there are many people in the world that want you to be safe.
About your kids.. they are old enough to understand.. that makes more difficult.. it is possible that they do not like to see you to get hurt but not necessary the family to break up. I have seen many children backfire at moms (victim) for leaving their dads even the dad is the bad guy... why? they love both.. even thier dad is a terrible husband but could be a good dad (manipulative and mind-control, blaming on mom for years.. anything can be reasons)
So, please 'read' children's mind and find which one can help you or leave them out from your mission.
About money.. it is important thing but your life is important thing. It is not worth to risk to sneak little money from your H. There is always financial resouce in the community. You will have to hook up with a domestic violence agency in your area. If you don't know where call the national hotline, go to hospital and ask doctors and nurse, look up phone book and find social service agencies numbers and ask them. If you feel fear of him finding out where you call, have your friends (or anywhere you have chance) help you but it is important you talk to the DV agency because you will have the every information you need.
The local agency may not give you cash but you will be able to find shelter, referals, counseling, support groups and so on. If you go to shelter, you will meet many people who work in the field and they have seen cases after cases over the years. But, it is your choice and don't let anyone force you to decided.
If you decide to call a hotline, be prepare your questions (but they may not have answeres you are looking for or they may not tell you what you want to hear), be ready to open up and talk about your situation with a stranger but trust them if they tell you 'it is confidential and I am trained to help you'.
I will check your thread from now on please ask me questions. I had worked in the field and I know what you are going through.. Beauty
Me:31 H:29 D:7 S:2 M:7y Together:8y found out his A :07/07 bomb:11/01/07 s: 11/15/07 OW-1 is out of state; other female friends around first thread
