I like grace's questions. She can always get you to think about things differently.
You are making me wonder about my D11. I'm at 11 months post bomb and I have assumed that neither of my kids think anything is wrong. I know 11 for girls is the start of difficult emotional times for them. My D11 is soooo very perceptive, and yet she is also soooo very good at keeping her feelings about big issues inside. She is an emotional rollercoaster in that the littlest things can create very wide emotional swings in her. Sometimes she literally is having 2-year old tantrums because I ask her to take a shower or get off the computer. But the huge things, like death, she shows completely no emotion. She didn't drop a tear when my MIL passed away. She didn't drop a tear when my grandmother passed away (the only great grandparent she knew) and when my FIL suddenly passed away the day of my grandmother's funeral, again not a tear. She would only got a little quiet and didn't want to talk about it in each instance. So I think my D has probably perceived something is amiss and keeps it all inside. What bothers me is the thought that the kids will think this is how marriage is supposed to be.
Sorry I just went off on my own tangent there!
Your H, in typical mlc fashion, probably doesn't mean to be clumsy about the signals to your D. He doesn't mean for any of this to be happening, but he feels powerless at the moment to do anything about it. It is all about him right now.
Good luck at MC tomorrow.
Nature Girl M 40 H 40 M 15, T 19 D11 S9 bomb 3/07 (MOW)
