Thanks upside. Im just so bothered by this. And hate that I am.
H doesn't get it. When I tried to explain it to him , he just got defensive.
H just became angry and said he didnt want to hear it.
I asked him about the schedule because he seems to change it and We decided on Tues thru Thurs.
H says I NEED A DAY to do things. HE needs a day.hmph... Funny, I didn't know that was allowed. THen he hung up on me.
He is not the H I could talk to about d7.
I couldnt even talk about D7's feelins without him getting defensive.
I told him he was being defensive for no reason because I wasnt blaming him.
He could care less about what D7 feels now. See how crazy the ride is. One day he seems like he is trying to reconnect with D7 , then now, she is a bother.
He doesn't borrow her when he spends time with her. He is just as a parent as I am.
Kiki Hang in tomorrow will be better I notice my H will somtimes set boundries with me/kids egarding times days ect then he seesm to make it up b.c he feels bad You clued him in to the truth about how D feels Now let him spin he will have to figure it out sometimes the least said the better peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
Kiki I'm so sorry your H is doing this. It breaks my heart to see/hear the kids getting hurt.
They (MLCers) do get defensive VERY quickly and IMHO they don't listen to much of anything except themselves.
He was coming around trying to reconnect with D7. Maybe he started feeling too close and backed off again. I don't understand why hsi R with his D would have that affect on him, but it wouldn't surprise me.
Kiki I'm so sorry your H is doing this. It breaks my heart to see/hear the kids getting hurt.
They (MLCers) do get defensive VERY quickly and IMHO they don't listen to much of anything except themselves.
He was coming around trying to reconnect with D7. Maybe he started feeling too close and backed off again. I don't understand why hsi R with his D would have that affect on him, but it wouldn't surprise me.
Kiki I'm so sorry your H is doing this. It breaks my heart to see/hear the kids getting hurt.
They (MLCers) do get defensive VERY quickly and IMHO they don't listen to much of anything except themselves.
He was coming around trying to reconnect with D7. Maybe he started feeling too close and backed off again. I don't understand why hsi R with his D would have that affect on him, but it wouldn't surprise me.
"I need time to do things" right afte he got back from a week vacation
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He's losing control.....he's spinning and he's causing you to spin with him.
You cannot explain anything to him and you know this, so tuck those claws away! Hehehe....I can totally envision you shredding the shirt off his back right now
Both of you still have alot of emotions going through your heads now and playing the blame game is not going to get you anywhere. Neither one of you is going to understand each others points of view....your going to have to be the bigger person and zip it for awhile. This will take away his need to be so defensive...
I can't believe he's actually letting this go to trial. I'm seriously wondering whats going to happen the closer the trial date gets.
Intersting.
Shhhh.....it's time to be quiet now. Be still Kiki...
Hugs
Jeanette
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he's spinning and he's causing you to spin with him.
Ok, Jeanette. I have to admit you ar absolutely right!
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You cannot explain anything to him and you know this, so tuck those claws away! Hehehe....I can totally envision you shredding the shirt off his back right now
Ha!LOL! You made me laugh with this statement. Last night , I could have ripped him into pieces. But i KNEW it was something i had to let go.
Yes, I AM gonig to have to zip it. It does no Good to tell him anything. He is not listening. It is crazy how all he hears is blame. Even after I told him, I wasnt he still said i was.
You are right, my dear. I will be quiet and still.
