Finding Supermom - #4

[Mom of 2 2B]

Hey JennyF-

Can you direct me to the MLC page that had the 6 (or whatever) stages of MLC? I wanted to re-read it but can't seem to find it. I wanted to see what comes after the part where he's so stuck in the tunnel he can't see the light on either end and decides you're responsible for a lot of his misery. Or maybe you cut and pasted it in your personal files and can send it to me?

Also, you once mentioned that we can exchange emails in a private forum section- can you please tell me how to do that? I'm really not spending any time on this site anymore- too busy with the lawyer, changing over bank accounts, etc. Plus the babies are now spending a lot more time awake. And I'm convinced it's over so there isn't much motivation for me to hang out here (although I am hoping we start back up in counseling soon b/c the R we do have related to the kids is sliding fast- it was definitely better when I was DBing but now that I've decided I don't want to be in this M anymore it doesn't feel worth the effort).

I'm still not ready to post the latest chapter of my story. Suffice it to say that it stinks. This is awful. Most days I feel really good, very empowered, and like leaving is the best thing he could have done for me he just should have done it sooner. But today I feel like crap- just really lonely and sad that the guy and marriage I had is gone and so is my prior life- I'm now a single mom with two kids and overwhelming responsibility. I have no idea how my life became a Lifetime Movie Event- I've never been a drama queen. And I'm so nervous about going back to work, balancing everything, etc. (especially now that he's threatening to only pay for his portion of regular daycare instead of a nanny- there is no way I can do my current job and take them to daycare what with my work schedule + them tag teaming getting sick- he has been so incredibly unreliable that even if he says he'll be the one to drop off/pick up/stay home when they're sick there's no way I can trust him, and there's no way I can do my job with that kind of uncertainty). Ugh.

Anyway, sorry to be a downer (and sorry for "hijacking" your thread, in your words! but I wanted to make sure you saw this). Hope you're doing well.

MO2