Yes, you should maybe refresh your memory on the book, but use the whole book, don't just focus on LRT. Rule#1 and the only one that really matters is: DO WHAT WORKS.
I totally agree - No good doing LRT if it results in pushing her away.
For the last couple of days I've avoided initiating contact with W. I took her cat to the vet last night (it was arranged over a week ago, so I couldn't get out of it), but I've not been talking to her during the day at all.
On my way home tonight she calls out of the blue, asking how I was doing and curious about how work is going. We chat for a little bit, then she asks if I want to go to dinner. Tempted to say I was busy, but I said I'd go along. I picked up D and met W at her house - She came out to greet us, very friendly and chatty. We went out to dinner together with D, and it was probably the best time we've had together in a week or so. W talked none stop the whole time, and we laughed a lot. Went to the store afterwards, but D was cranky so we bailed out quickly. We took D back to W's house, gave her a bath and put her to bed. I bailed out afterwards, and W said she was exhausted and not feeling good, so it seemed like a good idea.
A few things on my mind:
1) W was really interested in 'me' tonight - I mentioned I was having sinus problems, and she was really concerned and suggested we go out afterwards and get some decongestants for me. End of last week and over the weekend, she really didn't seem to care if I was alive or dead.
2) She seemed very frustrated with people at work. She is going out with friends on Saturday night for dinner (she had me rearrange our evening out), but she seemed annoyed by it. She also told me that having a birthday (she'll be 36) is depressing and she'd rather not think about it.
3) Apparently a guy and a woman at her office got fired today - Everyone thinks they were having an R. We both knew the guy in a limited capacity. She also told me a story about the brother of a guy we know who was stringing three girls along at once and ended up getting a conference call from two of them when they found out.
4) W initiated hugs/kiss when I left. Did ILY too. She also wasn't adverse to physical contact when we were out.
So, it seems that giving her some space and time to herself seems to be helpful. I need to figure out what to do this weekend - Either move our Sat. plans to Friday, or just do something wih W and D on Friday night for dinner.
I didn't post yesterday, but she said she'd come over sometime this week to help with my painting and we could all go over to her parents' on Sunday for her birthday. She has a C appt this week, but I'm not sure when it is.
Seems like things are getting better, or at least, better than they were at the end of last week.
