I guess what I'm afraid of is that neither I nor cac will ever really see me as anything but a recovering LDW. And an LDW is such a bad thing to be.
When you made that statement, it made me think that is how my H still sees me. Even when I was at my sexual peak and was wanting him to ML to me, he stopped cold turkey without a word. I wondered if it was just that he had blamed me for so many years of be a LDW that is became "easy" and he didn't feel there were any expectations of him? It was also around the time he began to have some ED problems, so if he still blamed me for be LD, then there would be no pressure on him to perform. Hummmmm.
Well, I think I know how you feel, it that helps any at all. I know women are complicated to men, but sometimes we feel like we just can't win either!
If you leave this board, you might try the Marriage Builders board. I'll miss you if you go, b/c I always kind of felt like I had you in my corner.
Good luck to ya.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
