Just yesterday my H asked me if I even know how to please a man....obviously I don't because I don't have that experience. Starshyne, his words are code for lets do something different. Drop your thoughts that you don't please him, because most like you do please him. He wants to strech the envelope.
Even as a male, I had trouble flipping the switch after all those years of hearing don't do this or that. Good girls don't like xyz. Well my W liked xyz 40 years ago but not any more.
Does your H know how you work sexually? Most guys think abc works for all most or women which is false knowledge. Tell him what you like.
Give visable and verbal clues when he does something right. I can say from experience, I find that my W gives out very few clues/signs as to what she likes and she doesn't like much.
With so few clues as to what I do correctly and her being selective, sometimes I feel like giving up.
There was on old thread about faking orgasams. The end advice was don't fake but ask for what works for you. Maybe faking is not an issue in your M. Guys also need to know "O"s are not always the goal of a W. He needs to accep that.
That is my short version.
Sign me up for the 30 days sex program.
Lou
I wish that were true, Lou. However my H does not find me attractive sexually and says that I can't arouse him. He is extremely unhappy with our sex and he says that I don't please him. The sexual things we did yesterday was a total failure and I do blame myself. Although I think his depression could have something to do with it.
Sara
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
