Bedroom: I just don't want to make her feel like we are separated or moving toward that. She did thank me for giving her that space. I don't think she is going to miss me or ask me to come back to the bed, she is to proud. I just don't want it to go to long. I really miss her and I am hurting a little today.
BTW: Thank you all for helping me through my bad days. My bad days are when I think to much and get to antsy.
My W moved out of our bedroom and took over the guest room. It nearly killed me. I would hear her come home late and leave early, avoid me all together. Over time, as things got better, I sometimes would "visit" and we'd lay in/on the bed and watch TV. I would leave before any tension developed. Just Friends... She would sometimes return to our room if we had guests, like her mom, cuz we never let anyone know of our sitch. Finally, we got into councelling, and she decided she was willing to try to make it work. One day, she just showed up back in our room in her 'jammies. She said that since she agreed to try, then she shouldn't live in the guest room anymore. It was still a long time before anything physical, but it was wonderful to have her back, and most importantly on her terms.
The point is, it took time, and it was her call. I made the effort to be friends, and I made the moves to get "invited" to spend the night in her bed, but that never happened. The times spent there watching TV were still good, productive times.
Patience. You have no control. What you want is not important. Remember that she did express appreciation for the space. THat's big. I'm sorry it hurts, but with time it will get better.
How much time is the question and can I handle that time frame. I am dieing for that contact now. Was it a long time for you for her to turn around and come back. i think it is going to be years. I get very excited when she just gives me a kiss good bye.
She is driving the train for sure and It does not matter at all what I want or need. Very hard and very hurtful.
