Your 24 year old, is he living with you? He should be old enough to help you and the 16 year old get away. There has got to be some help in the county you live in. Look in the yellow pages under family service, call the courthouse or the Dept. of Human Services. Call churches or go to your doctor and tell him/her what is going on and you fear for your life and that your H has ways of finding out what you do and that you can't go through the sheriff's office. I wouldn't leave in the car since it is in his name, he can just have it run down and charge you with theft. But, you could take the money for a tank of gas to get a bus ticket to the next town and then go to the law there. There are some types of underground protective services where it is done by sort of a chain link so the H cannot find you b/c the person before (in the chain link) doesn't know where you went next, etc.....if that makes any sense. There are ways Crystal, but you have to be very brave. Are your children boys? They should be able to help protect you, expecially the 24 year old. Is he M? If the 24 yr old is your son, then he is old enough to get away and get help for you from somebody. Where are your relatives? Can you email them for help?
Before you have your plan in place, don't do anything to set your H off and hurt you. Don't do any more snooping. Like you said, just pretend to be happy and ignorant of anything going on.
Everytime you use the internet and especially like this Board, go up to the tools bar and click on "tools" then click on internet options, then click on delete all history, cookies, etc. Then go to other sites that doesn't mean anything to fill up some history space.
You do not have to live like this! I don't know how you have stood it this long. It sounds like his family is as bad as he is.
May God bless and keep you safe.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
