Thanks Mishka...He did call me later to ask if anything was going on. Just friendly conversation. NO R talk at all. I felt it was ok. He contacted me. Im trying to keep a distance though.

He is however doing good with the kids. He picked them up yesterday on his day off and spent the afternoon with them. Feed them supper, then brought them home. He didnt go to TKD last night. Had a meeting. Tonight is his regular night with the kids, so he will have them till 8. Also, we had traded weekends last week, so he was supposed to have them 2 weekends in a row and then I was to do the same. This weekend is actually my weekend, but I guess he was confused about it and last night when I mentioned him pulling duty this weekend he said he couldnt because he has the kids.....I didnt say anything. I have them all the time. If he wants them this weekend, I wont say a word about it. Besides, the OW is working this weekend and he would be there with her....so there is a plus to it! He has said though that he is trying to avoid situations where he and she would be alone so there would be no "problems". He has said he doesnt want to lead either of us on....ok.

Anyway. Im kinda glad things are going this way for now. Actually I spent some time with him over the weekend and I was very uncomfortable. He told me last night he was too. So I told him I was also....we laughed and said we wish one of us had said something! We both agreed that we are not ready for anything right now and the best thing for him is to be alone and get some counseling.

I hope this counselor will be good for him. Our MC recommended her because he knows my H and the problems and our MC is very picky about therapists he recommends. Our MC also said that my H was beyond being helped any further by him. That it wasnt about our marriage, but about him and something from maybe his childhood. I am very interested to see that therapy will bring out in him. I just hope he will go more than a couple of times.

So, just keep praying, Im trying to stay away from the vaccumn.

Kissak

"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3
M-37 H-37
S-10, D-15
M- 1993
First bomb- 12/23/06
Came and went too MANY times!
Gone again 10-25-10