I bet you say more than you realize and you say it with your eyes. Some of what she may "receive" is from her own guilty conscience but you're putting off cues as well and I have read of at least two snide remarks. They're understandable. Hell, she deserves more if you ask me but you can't be that way. Not and promote healing. The answer to this is in your spirit. Do you love her enough to let her go? Then pray for the ability to do it with love.
Love is the answer.
We can love them if they are with us or not.
That has been steadily impressed on me in the last several days.
Love.
Change your perception and you will change the direction.
Don't ask me to explain it. It just came to me a second ago.