Well gang, I spoke to H this afternoon. He was wanting my password and logon to view credit card statements. I requested same of him. I guess he wants to make sure that I'm not charging a bunch of stuff.
We are selling some investment property and we are going to pay off our credit card debt, put money into a CD for taxes and split the rest. I asked H if he's been charging any gifts, dinners, etc. that is for OW on his card and he said no. This is BS! I asked him if I was the one cheating would he think it's fair that money we worked together to get go to paying for things I bought for OM or should the 1/2 that I'd get be used to pay for this. He said that right now ALL debt is 1/2. He also said we are needing to get past all this and get the D underway.
H said he's spoken to a L and advised me to do the same. Says he's only going to do what's legally required (Per H - only child support for S15 nothing for S19 that lives at home and goes to college full time and no alimony for me). But, that he was going to be generous and allow S's & myself to stay in the house until S15 graduates high school and he'd give money (not 100%) to help keep us there. But, H would not put this into any papers. That way if I was to ever become a B@@ch and get ugly with him or if I turned his boys against him he wouldn't have to pay anymore. What a load of crap! Does he honestly think I'm that stupid!?
I asked H why he hadn't started the D and he said that he was waiting on me to get used to the idea. I again told him that I did not want a D, that I wanted to work on our M and to have our family back together. H said that the D was going to happen no matter what because he didn't want to live with me anymore but he would love to have his boys live with him. Like my 2 S's would want to live with H's mistress and her 3 little kids...NOT!
I asked H why he had the A. I know bad DBing. He said he didn't want to get into that. I guess he still can't honestly answer that one.
I've contacted another attorney to get a second opinion. I'll probably hear the same thing as the other one. But, I have to make sure.
I did ask H to at least have the decency to call me and let me know that he's filed for the D before some deputy shows up at my work to serve me with divorce papers.
Well, whether I like it or not it looks like it's getting closer to being finished. H will probably serve me with papers next week for our 20th anniv.
