Dar, they don't all get "shaken" out of this- which actually reminds me of something I once heard - it is from the bible: All that can be shaken WILL be shaken.
But I digress...
Anyway, for those that do come out, life has more of a funny way about the process. Mostly it bounces you a few times on your head to get the marbles rollin' then it tosses you out of the MLC tunnel on your ass. I'm telling you this though, as long as you are doing anything that can be remotely construed to be being in your husbands face, he will be running in the opposite direction. You CAN'T shake him. You will NOT break him so you'd best get to the business of making sure this doesn't break you and that entails 1) getting a life and 2) getting your head out of his butt.
This IS solution oriented, too. Because the solution to these troubles is that you stand up on your own two feet, learn grace and the ability to stuff a sock in it and that's in addition to holding your head up high and discovering that you are worth something without him and you will go on if he chooses to keep it that way and if he does, that is his cross to bear. Learn to love yourself, Dar. By any means necessary. Otherwise, he won't see a person that he can love.
It's starts with you.
And it doesn't matter if you like it or not or if you think it's fair.
