What's this about...??

[Jeanette1120]

OMG!

You have just described Rich and myself!!! He loved that in me for years!! He would say I brought him out of his shell....

Then....later....it turned into I was being disrespectful and flirting Yet I was doing nothing different....

I swear to you Bomb....you've totally described us to a T !! And what WE needed to do.....

You guys are so compatible!!! There is so much fun to be had in relationships like this!!

I'm sure it will work. I'm thankful that your wife was willing to go to counseling! Rich did not want to....said it would make him dig deeper and find more things that would be hurtful

So got to watch your thread now! Gosh....I've posted that so long ago....introvert vs extrovert.

GOOD LUCK and KEEP ME POSTED on what counselor says.

[Broken Tree]

Jeanette - Why would I want to do what? Take my boots off and put the seat down. If that is all I had to do to keep my wife happy I would be one happy camper. My wifes list is eight miles long. These seem pretty minor to me.

[Grace_O]

Guess even an old dog can learn.

Yes they can, but I don't see any old dogs around here.....

I hope it works for you too.

[ddstartingover]

Ahhhhhhhhh romance..........The gift shop story is right on target!! You do know what you're doing, or at least have an idea of what your W wants.

When my H and I were dating (28) years ago there were 2 years that he was at college and I was still in high school. We wrote letters to each other almost daily---you know real old fashioned letters with a stamp and a trip to the Post Office. When he came home on the weekends he would be waiting at my car in the parking lot after school, or would have stopped by and left a note under my windshield wiper. I've spent more time than I should lately re-reading the shoeboxes full of letters that I've saved. The letters continued during the first few years of marriage, and I've saved them all. I found these letters (and still find them to be) romantic. I've thought of taking some and framing them or making a collage of them some day.

But, I digress. One letter I received a few years after we were married was on our kitchen table with a vase of flowers. In the letter he talked about how much he loved me and that for my birthday he was going to whisk me away for the weekend. He did the packing and the driving and made all the plans for a weekend away. It was wonderful.

I think anything you can think of that is something that your W normally would take care of, or maybe has asked for help with in the past is a good target to take care of for her. Can't even tell you how turned on I got when I came home to find that my H folded all the laundry (this was years ago too). Scary isn't it!

H also used to arrange for kid free weekends----which reaped benefits for both of us (I know you know what I mean).

I don't know what your history is, but I'm pretty sure if you think back years ago you can remember little things that made your W happy. Maybe things you did when dating that made her smile. These things are romantic. For your wife, if gifts are her thing, think about things from the past when you were happy. Is there something that was really special to her that may be hidden away or has been broken that you can replace?? In my case, I had one thing from my childhood that I had saved. I recently found that it had been thrown into the attic and was falling apart/ruined.

Other romantic things.........holding hands, laying in the grass and watching the clouds go by, putting the toilet seat down (yes), opening the door or pulling out the chair at a restaurant, flowers for no reason at all, romantic notes, hugs.............I'm pretty easy.

I'm sure you know what would be special for your W. Think, think, think----being surprised by something that she may think you've forgotten about would be a hit.

I'll keep thinking..........

[bombardier50]

Jeanette...just returned from MC but wife is close behind so I can't go into much detail, but it was interesting. I'll catch you and everyone else later.

Awww Di...a woman after my own heart. I love a good old fashioned letter, written on fine paper with a quality writing instrument. Not sure that's my wife's love language...still trying to figure that one out for sure. I think it's a combo of acts of service and gifts. She told me in MC today that she wishes I was more spontaneous...talk about a huge clue. I might have to plan a spontaneous weekend to the Berkshires/Adirondacks/Martha's Vineyard, etc.

Back in the old days, whenever I had to leave for a long deployment, I would leave little surprises all over the house for her to find later...notes...chocolate...little outfits...etc. She loved that. Unfortunately, sometimes one of the kids would find them before she did. I remember my youngest son asking me why the underwear I bought for mom had this big hole in middle...hehe..."Well son, it's for ventilation."

Anyway, you ladies are awesome. Maybe I should start a new thread with romance tips. We could call it "Romancing the Stone: How To Get Through To Your MLC Spouse."

[Grace_O]

Ohhhh, I like that title

[forward]

"I saw her pick up one item and smile. Bingo. She was very surprised when she opened the package."

Bomb, that is great. That is someone who really cares.

[Broken Tree]

Bomb, you are nuts!

[Jeanette1120]

Unfortunately, sometimes one of the kids would find them before she did. I remember my youngest son asking me why the underwear I bought for mom had this big hole in middle...hehe..."Well son, it's for ventilation."

Cough cough.....uhm,

Whew! One would never know your the introvert!!! Are you sure you don't have this backwards??

Dude.....there are more ways to be spontaneous than taking her to the Vineyards!! Drive down a secluded country road, have a blanket and bottle of wine handy in the trunk....point out something of imaginary interest...pull over.

nuff said.



ooopsies.......forgot........broad daylight! HA!

Night night...

Jeanette

[sleeper]

OK folks, there's the proof. People in mlc have truly lost their minds. What woman in her right mind would even consider leaving a man like Bomb?

I'm very heterosexual and just reading that stuff he did for his wife is turning me on.