Does the presence of alot of horse$hit indicate a pony? do I have to dig deep for the diamond? Does fertilizer make the flowers prettier when they finally DO bloom?
Update: things are good IF I'm satisfied living with a really good roomate. Spouse? Nope, just not happening. If I mention separation, which I have done, in counseling session, just to get her attention I get: "we are not separating". Why? Because she wants to live with her daughter full time. I realize there are people who would be thrilled to hear that from their spouses and I commend her for being a dedicated parent. But it's frustrating as hell for me.
I should be looking at the positives which are:
1)Spouse is willingly going to therapy with me. Therapist seems to be good.
2) When I GAL spouse becomes more interested. EX: friend invited our family on a weekend trip. Spouse didn't have "long" weekend but I decided to go anyway and take D8. Then spouse decided she would go IF we were back in time for her to (gag) celebrate OW birthday (since they are just "friends" afterall) Sunday evening. Oops! Can't be done but D8 and I will go without you anyway! Suddenly OW tells spouse "don't miss it on my account" (gag again!) Spouse decides she can go on trip. amazing!
Lots of other examples like this. Any time I take a stand I get results. But none of the results involve sex or much physical intimacy.
Spouse took all the initiative to order and pay for VD dinner. Spouse invited me to a movie she knew I would like and D8 stayed with sitter. Also initiated by spouse.
Is she trying? Yes. Is she trying my nerves? Hell yes!
Sometimes I think there is hope and other times I feel like the worlds biggest idiot for thinking that!
New resolution: don't persue. Not at all what I want to do but...let's try something that seems to work. 180 anybody?
I have a shovel and I'm not afraid to use it. Stubby
