CONTACTING OW/OW'S HUSBAND

[GoingForward]

I am having trouble seeing the reasons to work so hard when all I get is shut down.

Stop for a moment and look back - What is happening right before you are shut down?

STOP DOING IT. It's NOT working. DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT. DO WHAT WORKS.

Kiki, you are right to have every feeling that you have, every emotion. The hurt, pain, and anger are all still very raw and will take time, a LOT of time, to sort through. The key is to remember not to let your H see you this way. Be strong, and be positive about where you plan to head in your life.

You CAN do this. You just have to be willing to try, and you have to be willing to keep at it. Be prepared and know that it is a long process, and it is never easy. There will be good days, and there will be bad ones, too. It's a rollercoaster ride - hang on with all your might.

Please do your best to get some rest. STOP thinking about your sitch for a while. I know that's easier said than done, but Michele would remind you "easier DONE than said."

Changes will not happen overnight. Some M's take months before they're headed in the right direction, and some take years. Time and patience are essential.