I often wonder what would be going on if I hadn't left TX. Would he still be there too or would he have moved back anyway? Who knows. I think if I was still there I would never have given him the space to figure out he was making a bad decision. OW probably would have just kept looking better and he may not have come to the conclusion that she is crazy...at least not so soon.
H does still have the thing at Lowe's to hope for. He interviewed with two people already and they told him they wanted him to interview with at least one and maybe two more people. They are supposed to call him this week and set something up. Actually last night he said if he gets that job he may keep this restaurant job for a while for some extra money. That's the first time I had ever heard him say anything like that. Working two jobs...that would be unheard of for him. It isn't that he is lazy, quite the opposite, he is a really good worker. But for some reason he just seems to have this sense of entitlement. Like he should have all these nice things but he shouldn't have to work for them.
You are probably right. I have noticed that he is very jealous of other people. I used to always think he was just cynical and didn't see the good in people. But I think that is more of a defense mechanism for his jealousy. I have come a long way since I was waiting tables and he is right back doing it. I think it goes back to feeling inferior to me. I would never say anything to make him feel inferior, that is something that he comes up with all on his own, just like the way he thinks people judge him.
I really just wish he could be happy and quit over analyzing everything. He says he wishes that too, he just isn't sure how to.