I've learned a lot from a book called "Compelled to Control" - fish, you have some valid points...but most guys need to learn that while it is OK to control our environment, and our children, and (if you are a leader) our employees but that controlling a spouse - even though it starts out as being seen as a "strong man" - will end up causing major problems....
The book is heavy on the basis for control and recommends a 12-step approach to changing. But its like so many have learned and said here on the board - the only thing you can control is you....
The Serenity prayer can be a lifesaver when Db'ing for me.
