Every guy on this board is a successful ALPHA MALE. We are the winners in life - good careers, some money, the works. If we were not intelligent guys, we probably would not be fighting for our marriages, DBing, seeing shrinks and getting awesome advice on this website.
Our problem is giving up control. It's just not natural, it is not in our DNA. Our wives married us because we are men, not mice. We are take charge kind of guys and leaders of our families.
For some reason.. our wives have decided that they no longer want to co-habitate with alpha males. The want to exert their independence and be respected as equals. The problem is that we are fighting a couple thousand years of genetics (i.e CAVEMAN). Wife stayed home with kids, man went out to hunt for food.
Giving up control to the Mrs. is just not natural for us. It really is a lot of work. My parents have been married forever, they have a great life and a good marriage. My mom ignores a lot of my dad's sh*t. He is a bit demanding, but she accepts who he is and loves him for it. She looks for the good in him and understands that he is not perfect. She also accepts her role as mom/grandmom and absolutely loves it. She lives for her kids and grand-kids.
Do our wives fit this description - unfortunately for us no. So we have to work within the new system or get divorced and find someone more compatible for us.
It's funny that what attracted your wife to you in the first place is what she now despises.
But... that drive, leadership and desire for control has enabled you to build a great life for your family.
Does any of this make sense?
Ladies - am I off here? Am I being sexist? I hope not.
