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[Dom R]

Sounds like a great idea to me, at least

A word of caution:

But anticipating what that means at this point is an exercise in speculation, and probably not worth much time!

Yup. I'd like to reinforce this view even further.
Trying to "anticipate" what results look like, may be a negative influrence. If you're looking for "change A", and that's what your focus is on... you may completely overlook "change B" that happens.
(I personally have suffered from making this mistake so I want to share my hard-earned experience with you, so you benefit from my negative experience, rather than your own!)

In other words:
Do the 3 months. Give it all you've got; no looking back, no looking forwards. just a "one day at a time", do your best kinda thing.
Then at the END of the 3 months, try to take an objective look at how things are, and decide then what you want to do.

PS: your wife may not want to "work on it together".
Odds are actually fairly strongly that she wont, actually (But no harm in asking, i think)
Your 3 months will probably be "what YOU can do", not "what WE can do".
But if you are lucky, she may at least cooperate in telling you what she has been missing, and what has been hurting her over the past few years.
Telling her, "I'd really like to just LISTEN to what you say", as you planned above, may help her open up.


If you can really make some changes in yourself in response to what she says, to cover all of those areas... you may see some small changes in her after 3 months, to show you that your efforts mean something to her.

Give it a shot.. see what happens, eh?