Need advice

[want2believe]

One of the conditions of him coming back was that we had to make time for each other. We've gone out like 4 times in the last six months, just once in the last 3 months. It's not a priority for him anymore. I ask, but I usually get some excuse. Even when we stay at home, it's not the same as when he first came back. I feel like I don't turn him on much anymore.
As far as gifts go, other than eating out, he hasn't spent more than $20-$25 on a gift for me since he's been back. I spend more than that for him. We agreed not to get gifts for each other for Xmas as we'd spent a ton on the wood for the trim, but he didn't even get me a gift from the boys. He didn't even think about it. He felt bad when he saw he had gifts from the boys. I told him not to worry about it, I didn't expect anything. Which was true. Given his gift giving pattern lately, I really didn't expect anything. It still hurts though.

Bottom line is that no matter how much I love him and want to make this work, I really struggle with forgiving someone who doesn't regret what he's done to me at all. Because of this
maybe I read more into things than I should, but I can't help it.
There are so many little things - I wonder if we'll make it. I fell like I can't talk to him without driving him further away from me, yet if I don't try to talk to him about it, I'll get more resentful, and distance myself from him.
Right now I'm thinking of just giving him money that would have covered his last birthday gift - (outing at a hotel) and some money for this year, and telling him to put it towards his stock car. He's real love. Racing and the car wash always seem to come before me and the boys! I know it's not entirely true, but that's how it feels!
Thanks for listening if you read this. I need to figure out what I want/need to do here, and what I can or can not live with. I'll never ask for a divorce, but what ever I decide, it will impact our relationship. Good or bad!