Need advice

[want2believe]

Well it's been almost a year since H moved back home. We've had our up's and down's. I still struggle myself with things -mainly because I know he has absolutely no regrets about what he did. He's told me so. I find it hard to totally forgive him, knowing he has no regrets about it, mainly because it makes me believe he'll do it again.

I'm really struggling today - as there are a lot of things that are bothering him about H, yet when I try to talk to him about them, he seems to ignore them or give me his quick solution for the problem. He doesn't seem to want to talk about anything that is bothering me.

Some examples:
1. He asked shortly after we moved in about setting up another joint savings account. I hesitated at first, but after about a month I agreed. He told me to open it up, which I did, yet he has absolutely no interest in it. He hasn't but a penny in it. Why did he even ask for this. Yet I get no reply when I asked him about it. It just seems to me that it's a committment he's not ready to make yet - or that he still wants to keep things seperate in case they don't work out.
2. For his birthday last year, I wanted to take him to a nice hotel - just the two of us, and let him relax. He has yet to take me up on it, and everytime I've brought it up, he has an excuse - like what if something at the car wash breaks. Keep in mind, where I wanted to take him is only 15 minutes away from our house. I've given up asking.
3. I've got a week vacation planned in OR for this summer. A family reunion on my mom's side. He can't committ to going, and if he does, he say's he can only probably come for a couple of days because we don't have anyone to watch the car wash. BS! How come other people who own business can find time to take vacations.
4. My mother just recently passed away. Although he went back with me to the funeral - I paid for all the gas and motel rooms. I took a picture of him and the boys all dressed up - no picture though was taken of me. I guess I should have asked!
5. We finally did get wood ordered to do the trim in our house, and he started on the hall way upstairs. We moved to the spare bedroom, and now it's been 4 weeks since anything has happened. He's said for the last 2 weeks that he'd spend 2 days a week on it, but nothing. When I brought it up, and said I'd hire someone to come in and finish installing it - he just said if that's how I want to blow my money fine. I got upset and told him we were just going back to our old ways which caused him to leave in the first place - me constantly waiting - [censored] I've only been waiting over 15 years for the trim in our house. I'm not waiting any longer, and told him he didn't even want to discuss options. That night he came home and said he'd
spend 2 nights a week on it. I just told him the already said that for the last two weeks and nothing had happened. End of converstion as he didn't seem to want to talk about it anymore.
Keep in mind, I'm still showing him I love him and want to be with him. I just don't feel like I'm a priority in his life. I'm not convinced he came back because he wanted to be with me - I feel like he finally realized what he could loose, and doesn't want to loose it all.