I think you did a GOOD JOB!!! Don't worry about opportunities to show your changes. they will come. The most important thing is that you already made them, for yourself. You will know when the moment is right to slip in some kind of mention of them. I doubt this is the last time he will call you on the phone! I think even though your goal was to show changes and you're frustrated that you "didn't", you did a GREAT JOB of being a safe harbor. It sounds like he was really opening up to you. And also, you did a great job of letting HIM do the talking.
I actually printed this out from elsewhere in the site & keep it on my desk, even though I am so far away from having a converstaion with my b:
"Make sure you validate their feelings when they get into any kind of feelings talk, but do not offer solutions. The less you help the more they have to look at themselves. It is a big part of the whole process. Once you stop and back away from the sitch the less they can place blame on you.... if you are happy when they are around they need to find there own reason to leave. It makes them look at themselves and makes them start to think about what is going on in there head. It is very easy to put blame on someone else then take a look at yourself. Don't give them that."
Sounds like you are totally prepared to do this in person!!!!
Keep us posted, Essie, I am so proud of you and excited!!! (((HUGS))) TRANSFORMER
