What's this about...??

[bombardier50]

Hey BT,

Here's a quote from an MLC woman from pathpartners.com. I think it provides some insight...

"As I said, things seem better with myself, and seems better in the way I feel about Hubby. The question is, what do I do about not having any feelings of sexual interest towards him? Sigh - I do mean zero; do I love him? Yes. He's an important part of life and my day....but sex? Nope, don't wanna, don't find him attractive, not interested. The confusing - and embarrassing fact though is it's just him. I know enough about myself to know that my libido isn't dead, but I simply have no interest in sex with him. This is embarrassing, yet I've been wondering this for so long I'm tired of not having some answers, or opinions ... or something!"

My wife has said these same words, almost verbatim, in MC.

Many MLC wives will look to an affair to "relight their pilot light." The MLC affair will make them feel that exciting sexual desire again. But once that wears off, they realize they're right back where they started, and now, they've done devastating damage to their marriage relationship. Guilt and depression follows.

My MLC wife looks at me as her "friend". She's even told me that we're "just going to have to be friends, at least for now." Friends don't touch each other in "inappropriate" ways. The occassional cheek smooch and hug are OK. Pinching,fondling, and pats on the butt, not OK, even offensive.

It's painful, but part of the game, unfortunately.

Bomb