Check mark in the Divorced column

[Lissie]

Thanks guys.
Barb

You are right about the complete detaching. I just really have no problem with seeing him anymore, he doesn't ruin my day.

It's like just seeing my kids dad. I don't act different, I answer my phone, I talk to my friends in front of him, I don't change anything.

Unlike him that makes sure his phone is off, when he comes in. Or leaves his phone in the car.
He asks a million questions, I don't ask anything, I already know the answer.

I am divorced, and feel divorced. I want to have an R with him at least on my part, that is not weird. Or I can't be in the same room with him

I could very easily introduce him to someone i start to date.

I try to forgive him everyday, I don't want to be bitter I don't want to hate him

For me, for my children.

Things will fall into place, I have faith in it.

[BarbieDoll]

Lissie: Good for you, girl!

It was different for me. I tried to be nice - he would get nastier. He took "nice" as my continued interest in him. I never asked him questions nor did he of me. But he was horrible. He never calls that he isn't mean and cruel. I couldn't take it so stopped it.

Your children are younger. If you can keep up a businesslike R - more power to you. You are right in that respect - it is what is best for your kids.

Good stuff!

Barb

[Lissie]

Javier was like that for 2 years, and now he is way nicer. If it lasts that is a plus, if it doesn't, well again, things will fall into place the way they should.

I am sorry that Chuck refuses to see the light you have around you.

Maybe he can't stand to know how wonderful you are, and that he is such an ogre.

His loss. real big loss.

[BarbieDoll]

Lissie: That was a really sweet thing to say. Thanks - you made my day!

Barb

[I_Still_Love_Him]

They don't want us, but they don't want anyone else to have us either. How sick is that?

This seems to be so true. They are all smug when they leave and have OW in their arms and watch us as we hurt and wait for them. Then when we finally feel strong again and find our way and yes find a new R, they can't handle it.

I could very easily introduce him to someone i start to date.

Oh, I can't wait as I'm sure he'll find everything wrong with the new guy. Why shouldn't you feel at ease introducing him to J, afterall, you are now free to move on.

I try to forgive him everyday, I don't want to be bitter I don't want to hate him

Forgiveness is what we aim for and once we are there, we know that we are much better for it. You are awesome and I know good things will come your way.

Hugs,
ISLH

[Going Solo]

Once you do forgive him, chica, you'll be surprised by how even talking to him gets easier yet!

[fig]

Lissie

a package will be coming at you this week!!!

[BarbieDoll]

Hey ISLH: Didn't realize you live in Ontario. My sign in doesn't show that I do as well. I'm in Niagara - where are you? I've actually been here since Nov 01 but had to re-register at one point when my name got eaten (who knows?)

Anyway, hi to fellow provincial friend and how did you enjoy "Family Day"?

Barb

[Lissie]

So I have decided to have a party on my thread today.

A small one.

Fidel Castro had decided to step down.

I called my papi early this morning, and I said did you hear?

And he said, well, I am not going to believe it till i see some change in Cuba.

I said I love you, ok.

I know he is emotional today.

My papi is a hero, both my parents are. I am the proud daughter of Cuban Exiles, and I will have a small party, in tribute to them and my family.

And best of all

Free Booze

yay

Sooooooo I will offer you our faves.

Havana Cooler:

1 [small] bottle of ginger ale

1 sprig of mint (fresh)

1 jigger of Bacardi rum

You then put the Bacardi and mint in a glass with (crushed or whole) ice-cubes and add enough ginger ale until you have a refreshing drink.

Bacardi Blossom :
1 jigger of orange juice

1 jigger of Bacardi rum

a splash of Orange Curacao

You then need to put these into a cocktail shake and give them a really good hip-shake. One you have done this, pour out the contents into a glass of crushed ice.


Cuba Libre:

½ teaspoon of lime juice

1 lime

2 ½oz of coke

2oz of Havana Club

If you cannot get your hands on any Havana Club, don’t be too concerned as pretty much any other rum, of the same type, is acceptable!


Champola de Guanabana


3 cups Guanabana pulp

4 cups of milk

1 cup of sugar

ice cubes

ground nut meg for garnish

Combine all except nutmeg in a pitcher. Keep cool. Serve with nutmeg sprinkling.

And my FAV

Cuban Mojito recipe

the original authentic recipe from Havana Cuba


1 teaspoon powdered sugar
Juice from 1 lime (2 ounces)
4 mint leaves

1 sprig of mint
Havana Club white Rum (2 ounces)
2 ounces club soda



Enjoy yourselve, sit back, relax, Light up a hand rolled cigar.

Play some Dominoes, dance some salsa, a bachata, or a son.

Oh, and don't forget to eat, b/c one thing we cuban are experts at, is eating.!

And enjoy your freedom!

[fig]

Yay a party!!!

I saw that on the news this morning and thought of you!!!

we even talked about it in my mass media class!!!

cuz free health care sucks when you only get one egg and can be shot for anything