CONTACTING OW/OW'S HUSBAND

[kikidee]

I guess it's just a matter of time. After seeing H yesterday and being treated like a second class citizen, I have to confront him and tell him that unless I see that he is willing to work on our marriage - which to me means: actively persuing a plan to get our marriage on track, treating me with respect, living in the same home with me and the kids and of course cutting off all contact with OW - then I am done. One of my favourites is when he has said, "I'm still wearing a wedding ring. I still consider myself to be married.". I just have to laugh, since what it means to him to wear a ring and be married is something entirely different than what it means to me. I now have 2 people telling that I should see legal counsel. I know it's because they don't want me to be continually hurt but I'm starting to believe them. I have to take care of myself, my kids and of our future. I can't watch my H on this road to self-destruction any longer. I just can't take being hurt anymore.