You guys would be good candidates for retrouvaille. Check their website for dates and locations of weekends. http://www.helpourmarriage.org. They can help you with communication. Once the communication problems are fixed, often everything else can be fixed pretty easily. It's a fabulous program. turned my marriage around completely, and plenty of others. See Rogerrespondents new thread for more info. Plus, check the search function, there's been a lot of info on this board over the past 6 months.