She'll Think of Me

[NoCodeBlues]

Thanks, Lwb,

Nocode, you had a big shock with the actual confirmation and you were very focused on getting the truth. It takes awhile to sink in.

I can't quite say that it was "shock", since I expected the outcome, but it was a blow nonetheless. I wanted to be proven wrong, that I was being unduly paranoid, and my W was still only entertaining a full blown affair with OM.

You are far from uncaring and cold, just the opposite. I hope you know this.

You are so sweet, Lwb. I hope you know that.

Take Care of yourself.

Thanks, LO. I do try. You take care of yourself too, okay?

NoCode, you do not sound like an emotional cripple to me. The fact that you've shed so many tears proves that. "A strong man cries; it is the weak man who holds back his tears." (Lakota Elders)

Thanks, Joie, for your kind words and for the quote. I've heard that saying before, but didn't know who to attribute it to.

I think if I learned one thing from my father, it would be my observation of how he handled his emotions. He tried to show far too much stoicism, never crying, such that I think it proved damaging to him on so many levels.

It is said that shedding tears when appropriate is necessary for our mental and physical health, as it helps alleviate stress. I know how relieved I feel at the end of a good cry. Sometimes I realize that I actually forget to cry because I am usually trying to manage the stress level and keep things from coming apart -- it's a guy thing, I guess, since you ladies are able to let the tears flow so much more readily. And that's probably why you will tend to live longer too.