3) I am broke and my affairs are in a bit of a mess. Any kind of "mess" in combination with sexuality makes me a bit of a slut almost by definition.
Wow. Just wow. Really?????? Because, seriously, I can think of a lot of things that might cause a woman to be labeled "slut", but financial irresponsibility isn't even on the RADAR. I understand that you think this is FOO, but I'm really fogged as to how those two things *ever* got connected up inside you.
I don't think you should "clean up your act" financially and just general-life-organizationally so that you can feel like you've "earned the candy", sexually. I think you should do your necessary sweeping up for your own peace of mind and to balance the zoo, yes. And, yes, also if it helps you to not feel one down with these captains of industry or anyone with their finanical house in reasonable order. If that's the weight on the scale that's causing you to go all passive, not *sexually*, but in terms of "where this relationship is/should be going", then by all means do the work and get some perceived parity.
But, Mojo, your sex life need have *nothing* to do with your fiscal status. Sheesh. That's like saying, "Well, I don't have my SCUBA certificate, so if I were a good girl I would stay off this lovely rollercoaster."
That said, I think you may have gotten stuck in the headiness of all your reclaimed sexual prowess and regalia-displaying, to the detriment of areas where you feel less competent and therefore less motivated ... so some donning of overalls and rolling up of sleeves is probably in order .... but I think you already know that it's time for some lioness rehab.
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
