Calling all experts, non experts...serious opinion

[kikifree]

I got it from here:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/ubbthreads...o=&fpart=1&vc=1

Under the mlc resources link.

[mymonkeybug]

Oh ok great thanks. Need to go back and reread all that stuff since I don't think I have since I first joined a couple months ago.

[Jeanette1120]

Heyya Keekers!!

No, I wont . It will be peaceful and serene!!!

Ahhhhhhhh......the difference between you and him LOL. He would be bored. You'll find it relaxing. Besides, it's your daughters Grandparents!

Your doing so good Keekers! I love it. You know, everytime we hit a low spot and crawl back up, we seem to be a bit stronger each time and they seem to be a bit weaker...hmmm. As you say..."interesting".

Hey! You didn't raise your hand on Trustings thread??? LOL...you aren't tired yet?

Hugs

Jeanette

[peacetoday]

kiki
Hi
That will be nice to visit his family
and peacful is something we could use right!
peace

[kikifree]

Hey Jeanette, i do believe every time i have hit a low , I have come up a stronger person.

And other times , I have just threw my hands up in "whatever".

WHAT THE HECK EVER!!!!

You like my "interesting" don't you? THat is all it is "interesting"

Sooooo, what happened???

Hi Peace.

I think it is important that D7 sees her grandparents.

We will see what happens. His dad is not the easy"forgive and forget" kind.

I am, maybe too much. My friend says I have groundhog Day syndrome.

It will be interesting.

My sis and her husband have bought a home up there in the woods. Nothing but trees.

It will be a free vacation .

[kikifree]

I was talking to one of my wise coworker about h and she thought it was a great that he came over for Valentine's day.

I said yea ..and she asked doesnt it make you happy?

I just told her..I have no expectations.It is nic. Then I told her how H said he wasnt divorcing me because he couldnt afford it and she lit up.

But we really havent seen him since..my response. She responded ..ok he is working things out.

It is nice to see how different oeople percieve things.

h was supposed to call last night to tell me about his parents but didn't.

He is going tp pick up d7 tom instead of today. oh well..we will see.

I have been thinking about calling him to see how he is, but then think I should just let him lead..any advice????

Happy Tuesday!!!

[Upside]

Hi kiki-

I have been thinking about calling him to see how he is, but then think I should just let him lead..any advice????

I struggle with this too...so I wish I had some words of widsom. We want to let them know we care but at the same time we are told to let them be to sort themselves out. My take is that since it seems like your H knows you care, maybe you just need to let him contact you. You know he will eventually. It is hard but keep being patient.

<3
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[Grace_O]

kiki,

Ditto Upside. Patience is tough, but you're doing great.

[kikifree]

I cried today.

i ws soo aggravated. D7 still assumed H was picking her up. I told he wasn't but since HE didnt tell her she wouldn't believe me.

I saw D7 from across the parking lot waiting for him. I walked over and asked her teacher what was she doing ..I waitted and went back to my class.

I thought MAYBE he will come. Well he didnt. I walked up and she said daddy is late! I told her daddy wasnt coming today and it was ok. She cried. She crushed my heart.

So later she said daddy never comes.I never see him.

I got aggravated.

I texted him: I am not trying to tell you what to do, but next time tell her u are not picking her up.

H responded: I told her I would see her at practice.

i didn't know this. Practice was canceled. I texted him that and then he called.

I told him what happened with D7 and his response" that isnt my fault" I said I wasnt blaming him and I just wanted him to know how she felt.

H responded again "That is neither your fault or mine. She is 7 yrs old, I told her and it isnt my fault she didnt understand."

I told H AGAIN im not blaming him(which I WASN"T ) and just wanted him to know what D7 said.

So he said he wasnt going to praactice since it was cancelled.

He just said Ill see her tom. and we hung up.

So I thought since he didnt spend any time with her last week(remember , he was on vaacation) that he could pick her up today. Remember , the reason he couldnt was because he had to work overtime. Well, he didnt.

So I called him back and suggested he pick her up for dinner.
Silence then uh ok.

i said OOkay??
H responded : WEll, I do have thing s I wanted to do...
I said..You know what, do them.
H:Ok
I hung up.

He didnt hear ANYTHING I said.
He DIDNT care.

He can be inconsistent with me , but when it hurts my daughter..grrrrrrrr

[Upside]

(((kiki)))
I just wanted to say I am so sorry that your H is so selfish and can't see that he can do something that hurts his D. It seems to be an epidemic here on the board. They can do what they want to us adults...but the kids is a completely different story. Hang in there...maybe someday your H will grow up.

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