There are things I changed about myself because they were things that he "liked" but in the process I stopped being the person he married. I was a totally different person. I have made a few changes and working on getting myself back to "me".
He hasn't filed for divorce. In our state you have to be seperated a year. It won't be 5 months until March 6th. He hasn't filed for legal seperation either. We had no finances together because he liked everything seperate. The only thing is I paid half the mortgage while we were married and by state law I get a portion of my money back. That is about the only thing we have to talk about.
The last 2 times we talked I have been upbeat and pleasant and tried to make light conversation. Even telling him about funny things that have happened with the cats or my daughter. But it seems to make him even madder at me. I actually told him last time not to contact me anymore because I try to move forward and adjust to my new situation and all he does is put me down, call me "names" and treat me like crud. ( I contacted him this time about the house) And that was the last I spoke to him on the 5th. On the 6th he emailed about car insurance and I just was at the point I didn't want to be out down so I ignored it. Was that a good thing to do?
If you don't mind me asking why was your husband cruel and mean? I can't figure mine out. He left me and yet he is teed off at me?? I don't get it????
