Out of the Blue?

[kturnernc]

Well I am new here and hope I am doing this right. Anyway, here goes... starting with the basics.

My wife and I decided to separate near the end of January 2008. She basically told me the lovely "I don't love you anymore" line. June 2008 would have been 14 years of marriage. We have 2 kids. Nolan(8.5) with Spina Bifida and Owen (2.5). We had a daughter that died in 1998 at 4 months old in the ICU. I cannot even tell anyone how many miscarriages or whetever else we went though. Needless to say our life was far from easy.

There was some source of stress as I just finished my MBA last October. That was a huge source of stress for the family during the classes, but after graduation things went great. We were just like we were before all the kids, stress, jobs anything. We were acting like we were in love again. We would have tons more sex than we had in years, kiss in the hall, joke, play, etc. Things were going great. Or so I thought...

Prior to this, she started a new job, then after 2 weeks of it, she seemed stressed. I asked her what was wrong and got hit with this separation thing. "I think that we should separate". I agreed to move out because if she left, she was going to take the kids. So, to keep them in the house, I left. She had mentioned the separation thing in the past but when i told her that just being together just for the kids is not ok, that we had to work on us, and that I would leave till then, she would freak out and beg me not to leave. Then the latest thing.

Then things started moving quickly, day after she moved half the money into another account, she got the locks changed the first week, and then the next she got a new cell and told me she was going to talk to a lawyer. I don't know if she ever talked to a lawyer, because it is never talked about.

Well, we are still being very civil to each other. But conversation is strained with both of us trying to be polite. There has been no yelling and we agreed quick about the kids visitation.

Obviously this has left me totally confused. The months leading up to this was great. I had no signs that things were bad. I thought things were going well. Classic Walk-Away Wife, from what I have read.

Anyway, that is my story so far. I did not want to type too much out right now. But it is hard.

Thanks for listening.

-K