Mojo, I think you should (and all of us should) look at sex as one of the basic necessities of life like eating or sleeping. It's interesting how the psychology of dieting is similar to the attitude you expressed about sex, namely, if I get my homework done, then I get to have sex. Or I can't have regular great sex until my finances are straightened out. It's similar to "if I have half an unsalted soda cracker and a cup of weak herb tea for lunch, I have EARNED the right to a chicken breast and 1/4 cup of broccoli for dinner." When you (or anyone her) were dieting, didn't you often have the thought, "I cheated on my diet at lunch, so I don't DESERVE this meal, treat, ice cream, etc." It wasn't a matter of nourishment or needing food to survive, it was a system of reward and punishment and a constant test of character.
So if you decide that sex is a necessity like food and that you don't have to skip it until you have six months' pay in your savings account (does ANYONE have that?), or all your boxes unpacked, or lose that last 5-10-20 lbs... what if it is just something it's okay to HAVE, whenever you want as long as the opportunity is there (whether in marriage or out of it).
This addresses the non-sexual partner who has to have everything just right in order to have sex, AS WELL AS the nice guy who has to have his wife's To Do list completed before he can approach her.
Let's just fcuk whenever we darned well feel like it! Whoopeee!
